Self-compassion is the ability to love and accept ourselves just as we are. If we habitually berate ourselves for less-than-perfect behavior or appearance, we cannot feel it, because we don’t feel deserving. And when we don’t feel deserving we lean more towards destructive, rather than healthy habits.
If we can’t feel compassion for ourselves, it’s not possible to feel it for anyone else – except, perhaps, our offspring. The capacity for compassion is innate in both animals and human beings, and parenthood is a prime example. While it comes easy for most parents (and maybe also for those who choose professions that require compassion) somehow, we find it harder to feel it for those people we don’t have to care for – and that includes ourselves. Continue reading